I Can See Clearly Now

Recently I’ve been reading the late great Dr. Wayne Dyer’s autobiography I Can See Clearly Now. In it, he described various experiences he encountered and how each of them helped shape his character and helped find his purpose in life. Dyer described his experiences of being raised in an orphanage and having an abusive alcoholic father who abandoned his wife and children as being of vital importance to Dyer’s later success as a prolific speaker, writer, teacher, and healer.

When facing adversity of any kind, it is important to have hope that we can take what we need from a situation and let go of the rest. My most important goal is to instill my clients with hope, so they can affect positive change for a better future.

I work with my clients to create significant meaning from an adverse situation, to find out what they learned, how they got wiser or stronger.  In my own life during difficult times, I’ve needed to learn how to change my perception of what was going on.

In my private counseling practice, I work with my clients to change the meaning of whatever has caused them pain. It does not always happen right away. And that’s okay for awhile. Humans are not robots who can flip a switch and be all unicorns and sparkly horses. There is time needed to heal.

However, with a little bit of time and with some tools and trusted supports, we can start to change our perspective. One way to do this is through asking ourselves uplifting questions i.e. “What if this was a blessing in disguise? How would I feel then?” Dr. Joe Vitale, creator of The Law of Attraction, uses “What if” questions. What if this were perfect? What if this was supposed to happen? How would we then feel? The late Dr. Wayne Dyer used to ask “What if this were perfect?” related to a painful situation. I often listened to his audio presentations as I was figuring out how to deal with my separation and divorce.